The Cost of Money

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Yesterday was the first Thanksgiving that my wife and I had spent apart from our families, even last year we were not able to make it home but we still had a few family members that were willing and able to make it to us.  It was a decent day, a good meal, my wife is good company, we entertained ourselves just as we would have if we had headed home.  But the absence of any of our family, the long distance separating us from them, cast a bit of a gloom over the holiday.  Not to mention the start of the dreary days of a long winter here in the upper Midwest which always make me homesick anyway.  All of this made me reflect on the reasons for our being apart.

There is more than one contributing factor, as there always is.  First off, the reason that we were unable to make the trip out west was that we have a newborn son and such a long trip would not be an easy one for him.  By no means is he any sort of burden, he is a blessing, we tried and failed for several years to have children before he came.  We also had to consider the travel time and how much that would cost in vacation hours which we are trying to save for a trip out at Christmas time.  These are all some of the contributing factors but there is a single driving factor that led to the others.

What it really comes down to is money.  The cost of money is what I have really been thinking about the past couple of days.  I, like many people, moved away from home and from my family for a better job, for more money.  But ever since I got here there has been the nagging thought, ever-increasing with time, is it really worth it?  I have concluded, (several times actually, as I go back and forth within my own tormented mind) that, for me at least, it is not.  Family is everything to me, it always has been and why i moved here to begin with is a little bit of a mystery.  It was probably the allure of a larger salary, new career, new challenges, these are all good changes, all good things.  But again, is it really worth it?

I’ve spent much of my time scheming on how to get back but many of those ideas hit hard at the wallet.  So it again comes down to the cost of money.  Had I not ever taken the new job, gotten used to the larger salary, then it would not play such a large role in moving back.  But I did and now that has to be considered.  All in all, i believe that the costs in attaining more money are greater than its value and it is only a matter of time before i let these reflections motivate me to move on to what is much more important.

We seek more money so that we can buy things that we think we need, what we are told that we need.  When really thinking about it we can figure out what is an actual need and what is an illusion that just drives us to seek out more money and that seems like something that we should all be doing on this Black Friday.  So that is what I have spent my Thanksgiving and Black Friday doing; staying home, not shopping for anything and thinking about how I can get back to my family without sacrificing too much of our livelihood.

Today is going to be a good day.

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Today is going to be a good day.

Even after our reckless hopes were crushed again and again; today is going to be a good day.

Even with all the positive pregnancy tests then the heartbeats we lost; today is going to be a good day.

Even after all the mental and physical pain was relived with each loss; today is going to be a good day.

Even with 1500 miles separating us from our home and our families; today is going to be a good day.

Even though over the past three and a half years I have watched you endure five miscarriages; today is going to be a good day.

Even with all of the doctor appointments and inconclusive infertility consultations; today is going to be a good day.

Even after long days following sleepless nights running well past 4 a.m.; today is going to be a good day.

Even though I am too exhausted to think and to tell you how much I love you; today is going to be a good day.

Even with the recurring rounds of inconsolable newborn cries; today is going to be a good day.

Because we have just realized our dream of our little family when you brought our baby boy into the world; today is going to be a good day.

Walking Through Quicksand

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Life is full of suffering, sometimes its just easier to hide.

Walking Through Quicksand is a heartbreaking psychological journey through addiction & the toll it takes on life.

In the cities dark corners, just out of sight, the lost causes of the world gather to suppress the pains of life. They wander the grim alleys, always looking for the next hit, ignoring the fact that each step brings them closer to the end.

Trying is the first step toward failure… #getgoing #findthegood #inspiration

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As Homer Simpson has said, “Trying is the first step toward failure” but it is also the only way to success.  The only way to get where you want to go is to stare down that fear and get going.